Whether you are new to the dating scene, are reentering the dating
scene, or are a serial dater, you can use dating tips and advice. No
one is a dating expert – even the most beautiful and wealthy people all
struggle with matters of the heart. Everyone can learn something about
how to date more, how to attract the types of people we want to
attract, and how to make sure initial chemistry blooms into an enduring
relationship.
The truth is, there are no magic formulas, no fail-proof tricks, no
cunning ways of trapping Mr. or Miss Right. There are however some
essential facts that you should always bear in mind along the way.
Dating tips are just that -- tips, not one-size-fits-all guarantees.
Different tacks will work for different people. It depends on the
situation, who we are, where we are in our lives, etc. However, there
are some threads of advice that are fairly universal and can benefit
anyone who practices them:
Top 10 Dating Tips
- Get prepared for dating. If you really want to succeed in the
dating game, be ready to commit to dating. Half-heartedness won't work.
In fact, it won’t even get you half-way. If you really want to date,
put some effort into it. Do some research and think about what you want
out of dating. Prepare yourself for the inevitable rejection we all
face at some point in dating and commit not to give up. - Get your act together. Begin a regime of looking your best. Join a
gym, read health magazines, get fit and start a diet. Get your hair cut
or styled and begin a new regime of good grooming or beauty treatment.
Though it will not find you a date in itself, you will feel a million
times more confident about yourself, and others can sense that. - Go shopping and treat yourself to new clothes and even a whole new
look. Get your image right, one that you can manage and live with, but
one that flatters you. Don't try to be someone you’re not, but amplify
and accentuate your positives. Throw out those tired jeans, old
sweaters or cardigans and spruce yourself up. Your date will appreciate
that you demonstrated some effort. - Think about what you want to gain from dating and what timeframes
you expect. Do you see yourself married within 2 years? If you do, then
approach dating accordingly. If you are more laid back and don't take
dating too seriously then ask yourself some honest questions about why
you are dating and what you hope to achieve. If it is purely sex then
ask yourself if you are about to be honest with those you hope to date. - Surround yourself with people who will support your dating aims. By
following the first four tips you will feel better and be more focused.
Don’t sabotage this by sitting around with friends who are negative
about love and relationships (often the married ones). Start attending
social functions frequented by singles. Sitting alongside couples at
dinner parties in suburbia is not necessarily where you need to be
right now. - Choose those you have a good chance of dating. Be realistic. In
other words, your dating is based on the whole package you present as
well as just your personality. If you are looking for a glamour girl or
boy and want to date someone trendy and gorgeous, great! Just know that
others will expect you to be the same. - Join clubs, societies, sports events, drama groups -- anything that
might help you meet like-minded potential partners. You will not meet
people by staying indoors and playing video games – many have tried and
failed at this approach. - Take time off from dating occasionally if it’s not going well or
causing dating fatigue. Recharging your batteries and keeping
confidence and optimism levels high is an absolute must. We all hit
rough patches, but don’t let your search for love become a death march.
Date in phases if necessary. - Enjoy dating for what it is, dating. It is meeting people and
socializing and spending time in the company of stimulating individuals
who may or may not play a bigger part in your life down the road. The
fact is, most people have something interesting to offer. While you may
not be out on the dating scene looking for new friends, you may well
find one or two fabulous people along the way. - Never make yourself too available. People like mystery and enigma
and the thrill of the chase when dating. As part of keeping up the
mystery, do not sleep with your dates early on. The longer a person is
made to chase and fall for you within reason, the more likely that love
may blossom. (And yes, this goes for both men AND women!) If the
chemistry peaks too early, your emotions may never have time to catch
up and the relationship will eventually wither away.
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